SHE IS… Lindsay Ayers
I am a 26 year old second year law student in Chicago, Illinois. I am an army brat who calls Atlanta home and I aspire to use my law degree, to help entrepreneurs establish their business.
I’’ve had a couple boyfriends and been on a few dates, but have never been engaged. This last year was the first year I truly experienced singleness and it was epic. (more on that later)
SHE IS ADVENTUROUS:
What has been the most exciting thing you have done throughout your single years?
I traveled a bit, went skydiving and picked up a few new hobbies like hand lettering and painting. I had the opportunity to work with Senators, went zip lining and on a missions trip to Mexico. But, the most adventurous experience was encountering God in all of 2016. Having Jesus take over my life was an adventure to say the least.
SHE CELEBRATES WITH OTHERS:
How many weddings have you celebrated with friends?
I have been a maid of honor twice, a bridesmaid three times and a hostess twice. I was a wedding coordinator for a friend’s wedding this past September too. In addition, I have been to more weddings than I can remember. People have joked I am well on my to being the next, “27 Dresses”.
So many weddings, so many dresses…so worth it.
SHE IS GRATEFUL:
What are you most grateful for/has been the biggest blessing of singleness?
The one thing I am most grateful for is Jesus rescuing me from myself. Before this year started, I was making decisions that didn’t reflect my true desires. Those decisions could have resulted in an unfulfilling life. The Lord was gracious for letting me fall from the places I set myself upon. He met me in the fall to restore, renew, revive and rebuild me into the woman I never imagined I could become. I am so grateful that who I was is not who I have to be going forward. Allowing Jesus to transform me is the best decision i have ever made.
SHE IS INDEPENDENT:
What have you done on your own that you are most proud of?
Honestly…getting through 2016. What should have been my most challenging year ended up being the best. The Lord was so gracious to take a major heartbreak and give me beauty for ashes. I didn’t just survive 2016…I flourished. and I am so proud of myself for making the decision to let Christ lead the way through what could have been a really rough season.
SHE SHARES ADVICE:
What have you learned through singleness that you wish you could tell your younger self?
Wait for the one you can’t explain. If you can explain a man, I would question if God sent him. What God has for you is beyond what you can fathom. I would also tell my younger self that you are worthy. Worthy of being waited for and worthy to be loved like Christ loves the church. You are not worthy because of the things you can see within yourself, but because of who lives in you. Lastly, trust your little voice inside of you that says “that boy is not a good idea”. That voice is always right. Run the other direction. Run fast.
What is your craziest, funniest, most awkward dating experience?
The worst date I ever went on was in college with a guy that my friends encouraged me to say yes to. I agreed despite my better judgment. When he picked me up, I noticed that the tires on the car were flat. The only way I could enter the car was by him opening the door from the inside. I wasn’t exactly balling in college so I wasn’t quick to judge but as the night went on I started to regret this “yes” more and more. We went to a movie and when it was time to pay he had his friend sneak us in. I was SO EMBARRASSED when I realized what was happening. Then he texted through the whole movie and claimed he was checking on his siblings. The whole way home I thought we were going to die because the tires were too flat.
So yeah…worst date ever. #neveragain
SHE CLINGS TO TRUTH:
What is your favorite truth/bible verse to combat the lies of the world?
“Can a woman forget her nursing child, that she should have no compassion on the son of her womb? Even these may forget, yet I will not forget you. Behold, I have engraved you on the palms of my hands, your walls are continually before me.”
– When walking through singleness, it can often feel like God is so busy creating other love stories that He has forgotten to create yours. This scripture was and is a constant reminder to me that God could never forget me and that what is for me is for me.
“Let us hold fast the confession of our hope without wavering, for He who promised is faithful.”
– God promised that goodness would always chase me down. No matter what season I’m in, I am currently experiencing the goodness that was chasing my down and can live in expectation of the goodness that is currently chasing me down. Its all good- all the time!
SHE SEEKS WISDOM:
What is your favorite resource for singles?
My Wholeheartedly Devotional and The Bible. Seriously. Greatest tools ever to figure out who you are, who God wants you to be and what He is asking from you right now.
SHE MAKES PLANS:
Do you have a bucket list? If so, what’s one thing you’d like to do?
The one thing I would like to do is take this year as it comes and try not to make too many plans. I tend to make lots of lists and Pinterest boards to plan out life. This year…I am going to just see where things go!
SHE IS BEAUTIFUL
When do you feel the most confidant & beautiful?
Oddly enough, I feel the most beautiful when I finish a really good workout. When my skin is a little sweaty and I feel strong and fit. That is when I feel the most gorgeous. Probably don’t smell the best but you can’t tell that in my post gym selfies.
SHE BUYS THE FINE CHINA:
What is something you like to splurge on?
I would say, I like to splurge on anything timeless. If I know I will love it, wear it, adore it and look at it for years to come. It’s a splurge to me.
SHE EQUIPS THOSE COMING BEHIND HER:
What encouragement do you have for those girls who are struggling and not yet thriving in their singleness?
Be still. This time you have with just you and the Lord is one you will miss in the days to come. God loves having you all to Himself. Let God romance you and woo you and tuck you away in His heart. All that stuff about letting God write your love story and being so after God that a man has to go through Him to get to you is TRUE. Wait on the LORD, not on a husband.
Don’t rush the process and trust that whatever the Lord has for you is good. Where you are right now is exactly where you need to be, so rest in that. Everything happens in it’s time. Celebrate those around you wholeheartedly. Avoid the comparison game. The love story God has for you epic. It is worth the wait.